AndyBa wrote:In which way is it liberating?

I mean, you spend your life trying to please other people, and planning to do things for yourself next year... And once you start living like this, people will exploit you: they make you work harder and harder, and you only get the minimum reward for your efforts because they know you can't afford to quit. They try to make you buy a poorly built house, an over-priced car, a lavish wedding, expensive gadgets and clothes, because it is a way of keeping you poor and therefore controlling you. They will hold you up as an example of how "good" they have been to you, and effectively profit from your predicament. Before you know it, you are getting old and your life is not your own! When you realise that next year might not come, you are set free

You see with clarity what is important in your life, which memories are most precious, and who your friends are!
Of course, you never have the time and money to do everything that you want straight away

and you mustn't become too selfish! But I now have a whole 5-year plan!

of course, life does not always adhere to plans (And my mother is furious with me!

)... But I feel much happier and full of hope.
And I take the train more than I used to
